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Hugging is recognized as a form of touch in therapy. Thus, whether it’s ethical for a therapist to hug a client depends on the ethicality of touch in therapeutic relationships. As with many other ethical considerations in therapy, this is dependent on the guidelines outlined by the American Psychological Association (APA) ethics code.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let’s discuss each principle’s ethical implications on a therapist’s decision to hug a client in the next section.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This principle urges therapists not to harm and only to use interventions that’ll likely benefit their clients. Since hugging and other forms of touch can be very emotional, it may trigger positive and negative feelings in a client, depending on their psychological state. For instance, former abuse\/violence victims or individuals with paranoid\/borderline personality traits may perceive touch as threatening or intrusive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Given the potential impact of touch on various clients, a therapist should only hug you if they know you very well and are confident that doing so won’t hinder your progress. Even then, they need to seek your consent beforehand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Consent can be verbal or written, but the latter form is almost always mandatory when a touch is a primary tool in therapy sessions. If your therapist only wants to use hugging and other forms of physical contact every once in a while to supplement verbal psychotherapy<\/a> (such as to show empathy during an emotional session), verbal consent will suffice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This principle is all about therapists treating their clients with utmost honesty and transparency. In the context of today’s discussion, the implication is that it’s unethical for a therapist to decline your request for a hug purely out of fear of facing scrutiny from regulatory organizations. If there are other underlying reasons for them declining your advances for a hug (like when they detect sexual undertones), your therapist should clearly explain their reservations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To demonstrate why this is important, think of an individual living with HIV who goes in for a hug, only to be turned down because their therapist is afraid that hugging may amount to an ethical violation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This person is likely struggling with the stigma HIV\/AIDS often poses, only to realize that the one person they thought could help them tackle the issue treats them just like everyone else. Worse still, the therapist fails to explain why they turned down their hug, further validating the stigma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
See how that can be detrimental to a client’s recovery?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On the other hand, you are not entitled to a hug from your therapist just because you request it. The decision should be mutual. If your therapist turns down your hug and you feel you deserve an explanation, take this opportunity to have an honest discussion about your therapeutic relationships’ boundaries<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These two principles further reinforce the importance of therapists acting in their clients’ best interests. Typically, therapeutic relationships are characterized by a power imbalance, where the therapist holds more power than the patient. With this power comes an inherent risk of clients accepting whatever their therapist suggests even when they’re not entirely comfortable with the suggestion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This risk is one of the primary sources of reservations towards the use of hugs and other forms of touch in psychotherapy because it puts therapists in a position to use their power for exploitive purposes. That’s why each therapist needs to weigh the decision to hug a client against APA’s general principles of fidelity and responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It’s the therapist’s responsibility to use their persuasive power in a manner that benefits you as the client. This is particularly crucial when the practitioner is open to the idea of hugging, but they aren’t sure whether your consent means that you don’t mind that form of touch. The implication here is that the practitioner should only hug you when your therapeutic relationship has developed well enough for them to understand two key things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This principle demands that a therapist takes the initiative to understand what touch means from the perspective of the client’s personality, gender, and culture before they introduce it to the therapeutic relationship. The rationale is that hugging qualifies as nonverbal communication and can easily be misinterpreted if the practitioner and the client aren’t on the same page regarding its meaning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For instance, men generally tend to interpret hugging and other types of close physical contact as sexual. They’re also less likely to initiate nonsexual touch than women. Thus, a man is more likely to experience a hug as a sexual overture than a woman, meaning that a therapist dealing with male clients runs a higher risk of having their hug misinterpreted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, personal and ethnic differences in what qualifies as casual touch can lead to an otherwise innocent hug by a therapist being misinterpreted. So before going in for one, a therapist needs to talk to you about your cultural and personal orientation towards the touch and possibly document how you feel about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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